Last night Mr. Nielson and I decided to dedicate our family counsel
(Family Home Evening) lesson and conversation about social media and phones.
We also wanted to talk about how addiction can happen
when we use and abuse our phones too much.
We talked about what addiction is and why it's important to
understand that addiction isn't just a word that goes with drugs.
Addiction can be a associated with a lot of things like food, work, sports,
even exercise, and we are seeing it more and more with
phones and social media with people of all ages.
I told my children how frustrating it is to see kids disengage from each other
and melt into their phones where they
find solace and acceptance with a basically a robot.
I finished the evening by explaining to my kids that just because
Christian and I were teaching the lesson and sharing insight about the subject,
certainly doesn't mean we are perfect, we are far from it!
I am disgusted at myself sometimes when I just plop my phone onto
Lottie's lap when I need to get something done, or in the car, or when she is bored.
I am instilling in her that every time SHE is bored she can go to her phone.
I am teaching very unhealthy practices to my 4 year old.
I am not going to do that anymore!
So basically I told them that this lesson was just as much for us as it was them, and
we are working together as a family to change behaviors and habits
that we have formed because of our phones and social media.
I have to say, The Little Nies are actually quite good on their phones;
meaning they are not constantly on their phones.
I am very strict about them using phones at social events
and around people- they are not allowed.
Last night, we challenged the Little Nies to always have a purpose
when they are get on their phones and
If they don't have a reason (check their e-mails,
text a friend, school assignment or a quick social media sweep),
then they should stay away and fill their time with something worth while,
lasting, and engaging.
Essentially our rule is: If they are bored, they are not allowed on their phones.
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints has some
really good tips and ideas to help parents navigate these challenges.
Especially this manual
After our discussion, Jane made a killer
pineapple upside down cake for dessert.